Marking Time, Finding Purpose

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Description: We have a wait ahead of us. No infertility treatments for a few months. So how do I spend this time?
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monicavm ::: Favorites  2007-10-22 23:22:50 Good. That sounds valid. I enjoy your videos, why not keep posting on issues? The one way back that brought you to my attention, My Prayer to America, that was good. Why not comment share your opinion like you did? __________________________________________________
beabeaonblogger ::: Favorites  2007-10-24 01:47:56 These are all really good thoughts. It's funny - people are fond of saying, "Volunteer! Put your mind to something else!" but it's not really helpful advice until you've sorted your mind out enough to make that step. We were around the two year mark when we started having the same thoughts. (cont'd...) __________________________________________________
beabeaonblogger ::: Favorites  2007-10-24 01:48:41 We: - decided to accept a great job offer which involved a big move (not my job, husband's). - I did (still do) some volunteer work (which was great socially, as much as anything else, having just moved to a new place where I knew no-one) - decided I'd go back to school (worked ok with our finances, don't know about Canadian system/your house) so I applied in April and started in July (cont'd - sorry for long comment) __________________________________________________
beabeaonblogger ::: Favorites  2007-10-24 01:49:35 I honestly don't know how we would have got through the last year without these changes. Even the inconvenience of having to travel to get back to where our clinic is has been worth it for our mental health. It's been nice to know that life is, after all, moving forward. I don't know what projects *you* should do, but Christmas is coming up, and there's got to be something you can do for someone there. Perhaps another idea will come to you after that. Bea __________________________________________________
qlaudhya ::: Favorites  2007-10-24 14:10:14 That is really hard, you know I've been waiting for almost 7 years it is a long time and I haven't found anything that really works. Good luck!!! -_o __________________________________________________
Caliban018 ::: Favorites  2007-10-30 19:21:45 You are absolutely right. I am so miserly in my posts, I am almost afraid to open my mouth. But why not? Thank you very much for this. __________________________________________________
Caliban018 ::: Favorites  2007-10-30 19:24:59 Thank you for these thoughts. Do you go through moments where you feel almost guilty about not devoting all your energy to having or supporting a child? Somehow everything else seems so fatuous or empty. But in the end, if I am blessed with a child, would I not prefer to bring them into my life at a point where I am happy? I am seeking change at work, although I do not wish to leave the city. It has much to recommend it, including our home. (cont'd) __________________________________________________
Caliban018 ::: Favorites  2007-10-30 19:31:11 I will be heading down with a friend to a breakfast kitchen that goes on every Thursday in the downstairs cafeteria of a beautiful courthouse. (No, not that kind of courthouse, everyone is free to leave at the end of breakfast, and it is one of the few greenspaces in downtown Toronto.) It's a nice program with the almost surreal title, Lawyers feed the Hungry. We'll see how it goes. Thanks again for the ideas, I have much to think on. __________________________________________________
Caliban018 ::: Favorites  2007-10-30 19:32:01 Time should never be an enemy. We always gasp so hard for our last few seconds. And yet I am seeking for ways to kill time. Or fill it. __________________________________________________
sexypinkfairy ::: Favorites  2007-10-31 09:01:24 i know how you feel weve been waiting about 6 years it's hard, i have pcos, and also partner has found out he has poor mobity i'm quite depressed about it so know how you feel, for things to do for me i'm trying diet to be in shape if we did get lucky, he's doing the same, i think its important as it would be nice too feel 'healthy' so we are trying to eat healthy, excersise ect ironiclly ive also found i really enjoy cooking and baking __________________________________________________
sexypinkfairy ::: Favorites  2007-10-31 09:02:51 we also have a dog which keeps us busy with walks and stuff hope you find something you enjoy. __________________________________________________
Caliban018 ::: Favorites  2007-10-31 20:16:04 Nothing ironic about it. Making a home involves providing good food for those who live here. Balance between tasty dishes and the right amount of calories is tricky, but not impossible. I find it hard to focus on making my home a good place when it feels so empty. But I guess we live and learn and make ourselves and homes better so that we are ready when the blessing comes. __________________________________________________
Caliban018 ::: Favorites  2007-10-31 20:16:41 I don't know where I would be if it weren't for my pooch, Kelly. We run together almost every day and she helps take me out of my head and into the grass. __________________________________________________
Rebecca327 ::: Favorites  2007-11-06 13:34:14 Just want to give you some hope - My husband had the same surgery and we conceived our precious little boy 8 months after!!! I fully believe that vitamins helped as well. He was taking fertile one, but there are other good ones. He was also taking proxeed but just for a few weeks before we got pregnant. Don't give up!!!!!!!!!!!!! __________________________________________________
wishing42 ::: Favorites  2007-11-08 23:34:19 I always feel like that - when people ask me when we are going to have kids, I always want to say "well my baby was supposed to be born 8 months ago" and we just got a new puppy. It does help. A Lot. He even cuddles with me. Keep trying to find purpose! I find mine in my faith. :) Jen __________________________________________________